Cookie-Cutter Finance + Neurodivergency (E. Week, Day 3)
Disclaimer:
Everything below is a mix of what I observed and heard during the event. The goal isn’t to pinpoint "who exactly said what," but to share (usually) an outsider's view and overall perspective on these industries. I’m not here to act as a definitive firsthand source—readers should do their own research. I hope this inspires you to attend events, explore new industries, and hear what leaders are presenting. These notes combine my observations with thoughts on how things could run smoother and how ideas connect (IMO). I’m not an expert, you know? Just hanging out in the room with them. Enjoy!Topics Covered: Passive income, emergency funds, side hustles, income streams, hiring help, team’s guidance, ETFs, value investing, market transparency, leadership, accountability, modeling bravery, neurodivergence, labels, trauma, family tradition, habits, communication
With a title like, “How to make passive income with Ai”, you almost CAN’T not go. I mean, what secrets are we unlocking? I researched the speaker ahead of time to see if she seemed qualified for the role. Definitely seemed so. She’s an influencer and author, so for sure she can fill 90 minutes well. After that< I had a meeting, and then attended an event on neurodivergency. As a neurodivergent person, myself, (and a fan of the speaker, I met her the other week), I was excited to see what as said, as well. I was pretty sure I’d enjoy that no matter what hahah.
Why Attend: This city is booming with opportunity and knowledge. And when someone wants to share secrets on how to build your income with Ai, of corse I’m showing up. I want to hear their philosophies and processes for making decisions on how to spend (are they a fighter, or feeding the broken system) - AND - I want some advice on how to make more money with Ai. Why not? Let’s see if anything sparks that’s a bit revolutionay or useful. Lastly, the second speech is really interesting and relevant to me -so I was excited to learn more.
Overall Event Ratings: Venue (3.5/5), Food (2.5/5), Speaker Content (2 and 5/5), Networking (4/5), Likeliness to Return (5/5)… (more at the end)
Photo Collage and Commentary:
Notes From the Event:
I arrived at a venue I like a lot. I’ve been there a million times and I realized they had it set up a little (for lack of better words) stupidly, for the sake of the presenter. Cause they have her background against the entrance/exit. So if anyone comes late or leaves early, they have to do so by literally walking up onto the platform she’s using as a stage. Just awkard IMO and distracting.
Even so, they’re starting 10 min late but this presenter has a great presence on stage.
IDK what it is, she can just stand on stage and looks comfortable. She could stand there for an hour!!
She just talks to the audience and seems comfy in her own skin.
It’s nice to see and I’d like to have that same presence when its my turn on stage here soon.
She joked that her team had to help her with makeup or something.
I’m like, girl! Your team helping with makeup? Before this random speech? You are so official/professional and my age hahha!
I boycotted it years ago - and some days I look older than others. But I just get used to it and try to work on making my beauty shine by like, being the person I dream I could be.
Growing up I always wanted long hair, but I’d cut it when I felt like depressed, etc. These days, I stick with it. Finally letting it grow.
Things like that, eating healthier. More time outside. Just caring less about ‘fake beauty’ and more about ‘health’ and being natural/authentic and okay with myself.
So anyway, besides that comment, I admired her presence on stage and know I’ll need to do the same soon when I go stand on stage and give a speech, myself - ahh! Next month.
These speeches are an hour and a half! But again, I saw online that she was an author, so it seemed like a good pick (there were two speech choices at this time, the other was about menopause which i really did want to go to - but I thought this could be more useful for me atm! hahha - but, let’s see)
This woman is an entrepreneur, best selling author, she has a very proud image from the start.
She says she’s been an ai influencer ever since it wasn’t cool, now it is.
She has a PhD in linguistics. She has closed 6 and 7 figure deals, working on 8 figure deals.
She tries to get people to cheer her on that she’s getting 8 figure income deals hopefully, but the audience isn’t too enthusiastic.
She has 22 income streams.
My impression is she came on way too strong with her successes… in this speech for people who want to learn about making side money.
She joked that maybe some of us in here have landed 7 or 8 figure deals, but if so, why would they be here? (like the audience isn’t good with making money or deals, compared to her, and we’re all here to learn from her)
She is trying to get everyone engaged and says, wake up! More coffee please.
Kelly Tutors Speaker Tip 101 - Don’t ask the audience if they’ve had coffee or drinks as an attempt to get them hyped. Hype them up with your expertise, cool and interesting facts.
(But I think she’s coming into this too cocky, like we’re all intimidated and/or annoyed with her success shoved in our faces with so little humility about it.)
50% of US adults are experiencing ‘layoff anxiety’, here in Seattle its like 80%
She’s going to tell her own personal story, and for her to share not her own stuff would be disingenuous, and you can tell that’s not how I roll.
Can I? Idk. You were running late cause of makeup - which is HONEST, but also its covering up yourself. Though people could have this debate all day.
but for me, ‘geniune has a stronger definition, and idk if that justification, I’m buying.
She said after this she wants to have a journaling session
I signed up for this, but then I realized I have a client meeting part of that time (and wanted to go sit by the water in one of my favorite spots by the city, so i bailed that at the end - and even had the meeting waterside hahhaah)
She gives a disclaimer that she is not a financial advisor, her lawyer suggests she says this.
She keeps referring to her team in ways and how they advise her to say things so that’s why she’s saying them. Out of obligation-ish. But she says what her team told her not to do while she does it, too. Strange style, her team must be watching, like “ah! no! we told you not to do this and now you’re even making fun of this for it - but SEE its not working?) cause like she said they told her not to show off too much her successes in the beginning, as she was talkign a lot about then, and I’m like, “Yeah. Your team was right. Not the best look or wording that you had there.” My opinion.
She said that families always blame the family member for getting laid off, they should have done better. But she’s really just part of the collective data.
Her slideshow is hard to read, the color contrasts with this lite blue and white. But there are pictures of her and then scenery.
She said now she’s had VP titles and raised her salary to be closer to a quarter million. Now she has bigger deals, a podcast, a book, as her career goes, it’s not just about the job, it’s the bigger arch for the goals in your life.
- What broader goals do you have in this puzzle?
Something she wants to talk about are with a group. A world where all women have at least seven figures in their bank account, what world would we live in. How can we take steps individually and collectively?
Think expansively about how your life would be different if you had millions your portfolio.
In her book, she did research on census data - cause thank goodness it’s still available. (Is that true?) There were huge disparities when we talk about white gay men, straight men, down to different identities for all roughly the same job. Disparities down to 60,000.
She didn’t get too into this.
Have you ever learned you’re making more money than coworkers? Or they make more than you?
Also childcare obligation, who takes care of the kids at home? We dont have the same hurdles.
She said she doesn’t talk to everyone in this room, there isn’t enough time. Instead, she wants to collect data from us.
Bahahah okay? A little ‘feels like we’re being used’??
Cause you’re too busy for us to truly care’—- I’ve seen plenty of speakers before, and none say this. Maybe some, but plenty say they’ll make time for you!! LOL - idk. Just felt like, omg this feels like i’m getting ‘used’ by her.
She asks, are you a:
Rising Star
Career Focused
Money Minded
Mature Pivoter
- I feel like she’s labeling us normies.
She wants to curate the rest of the talk to collect data fro us. Just identify your hand if you relate. (I’m like this activity is so unlikeable, right?? Is it just me? The way she described these people was kinda depressing and she said everyone needs to be more “money mindset” with money always on their mind. I’m like ‘eew!? What? hahha” no. Values! The world needs change.
She says thanks so much for that data.
She wants to talk about the abundance mindset (okay - she’s TOTALLY reminding me of a lady I saw give a 3-day event about abundant mindset a few years ago). LOL. So, now I’m like, oh yeah, I’ve met ladies like her before 100%.
3 step financial freedom recipe:
Know your finances
Grow your income stream
Be in control of your finances
Know your net worth (lol and she shows off 1.5 million dollars in a single investing app. She said she wants to have 2.5 million, to retire. That’s her goal.
I’m like GIRL my goal is 2.5 billion and to change the world!! Revolutionize media, education, grocery stores! hahah - dream bigger and get value-centerd girl. Come on, now. What is this?
Most American’s do not have an emergency fund. I hope you’re building one. 3-6 months of living expenses set aside in a high-yield savings account. So you don’t go into debt and have to beg your aunt or whatever.
She said she sleeps well every night knowing she has extra money for when her dog gets sick.
She says, to the people in the back, I apologize
That’s me. It’s so hard to see her slides.
She says she wants to pay for dog care, or save up for a wedding. Average weddings are 60k.
BTW I skipped a wedding hahah. We used the money to buy a house.
When you think about down paymetns for houses, raising a child, you want to retire one day - how do you prepare for those markers?
I’ll be honest, I didn’t get a lot of financial education from my parents. But the phrase to save more than you earn and not spend more than you have. Have you heard this in the past?
I have a PhD as I mentioned earlier
Grad students live on very little budget. I was making 13-30k for several years.
Learning to live frugally was very advantageous.
So when I started making more money, I could save that money.
As you think about money in, money in, you may think of this photograph related to that.
Know where your money goes. How much do you spend eating out at restaurants?
- I tried to boycott restaurants. I think I go like once a week lately, usually cause my daughter asks.
Lately I’m totally living frugally
She says she loves ETF’s so much (but they can abuse the system)
“I love ETF’s, I LOVE ETF’s.” she says.
I’m like, girl - please!! Quit acting like you got freaking willy wonka’s golden ticket over here with WTF’s. ETF’s are so corrupt and are used to manipulate stocks. They can be used for swaps and postponing buys, making the price not true to reality - or favoring big companies.
Thinking “ETF’s” are “the best” is so lame!! Its so uneducated and basic. It’s not deeper. It’s where I used to be before learning more, you know? Not trying to be too rude but this girl is being all cocky how she’s the only one in this thing talking about finance, she has more money than everyone, she has 22 income streams, blah blahh.
Now she’s talking as if no one has ever heard of an ETF before - and if maybe they haven’t, the’yre not even THAT GREAT for hte world around us. They’re contributing to the 80% layoff fear and they just help a small percent of people get richer.
Ontop of that, ETF’s often remove the voting rights from investors, and you don’t have a lot of control of what you invest in - so you may SAY you don’t like one thing, but then your MONEY IS WORKING AND INVESTED IN THOSE THINGS YOU DONT LIKE - because of ETFs and mutual funds, etc.
So yeah, I started really losing my shit when she started being giddy and flirty with ETF’s. At that point, I started talking to Ai. I turned on my internet and had it help me complie a question.
Once I had a qustion, I raised my hand - but then she told me to save questions til lthe end. So then I spent the entire rest of her speech basically figuring out what was going on with me, why was I so upset, how do I word this, and how can i put this into a question at question time.
When question time came around, she called on other people first, even though my hand was raised. I ended up standing up and putting myself liek in the middle of the room to the side, so I could be seen and heard.
I did not want this room full of intelligent newbie investor women to leave this place not knowing that ETF’s can be used to fuel this corrupt system.
So, these were some of the notes I had… I don’t know what I even ended up saying. I rambled a lot. After I paste these notes, I’ll put them here, then below I’ll talk more about her response and hte response from others. that’s below - first, I as able to take a few more notes till I lost all focus. She says
My friends ask: Do I buy gold? What about crypto?
She says she doesn’t recommend buying gold nor crypto?
Omg this girl is insane!! Giving financial advice not to buy gold?? I bought gold - a little - and its gone up. Idk. years ago. Hahahah
She said diversify.
She says “I love investing, I love investing. I love making money when I do other things.”
Have y’all heard that phrase?
Grow your income stream, your many income streams.
She said her ETfs make 30% year over year.
This is so stupid. Cause the stock market is so manipulated - and people like her, everyone, who don’t pay attention to what happens int he longterm when you invest in these things. They are pretend helping. They make her money but hurt everyone.
She’s doing ‘stock market stuff’ the stock market gives you 7-10% returns. They compound with the investing.
Ugh. This speech is really frustrating. It’s so feeding into the problem!!!!!
Now she’s showing off ETF’s
VOO has 500 companies and all you have to do is buy some VOO. Us based 500 company portfolio -
She said “where is your money?”
This is why I DRS my shares. OMG - okay I’m really going to ask her this question 100%
They don’t even BUY YOUR STOCKS OFTEN TIMES IN BROKERAGES - WHERE IS YOUR MONEY??? WHAT IS IT FUNDING.
She says if you work with a financial professional, remember they have fiduciary duties. They have to work in your best interest.
She doesn’t want to take my question - not till later. Alright
Now she gets people to ‘woo’
She said we arew up hearin, work hard, you’ll be rewarded. Common wisdom says we shoudl diversity our ijnvestment portfolio. We’re far less careful on teh other end. Too many of us reply on one emplyoer for our entire sustenance as I once did.
Omg I can hardly focus - it just makes me so angry to see a speech like this where this basic advice is being given to women. When we really have this power to change the world.
She keeps cheering for herself and no one cheers.
I talked about a lot of peopel in my communities who are worried about layoffs.
OKAY _ here is my question for her all of my notes that Ai helped me throw together with everything I was thinking (usually I don’t use Ai to write for me, but this is the reality of what I was working with cause I was just like - omg come up with a question for me, help me process what is happening, AI DONT YOU AGREE THIS IS INSANE AND SOMETHING MUST BE SAID”:
So this is waht I said-ish
Let me start this off by saying I’ve had two financial advisors quit on me. I ask the tough questions in finance, so are you ready?
She said, “bring it on!”
“You mentioned you love ETFs, and I know that's a really common strategy. But at a certain level of wealth, do you think investors have a responsibility to think about the systemic impact of where their money flows — not just their personal returns?"
"Because ETFs pump prices across the board — even for weak companies. They starve small businesses of capital. They inflate markets artificially. And they let big companies buy up smaller ones and monopolize industries — which fuels inflation and layoffs. So while people are 'making money while they sleep,' the real economy underneath is getting crushed."
"Personally, I also built figures in investments — and I sold everything. I moved it into things I fully believe in — local companies, gold, crypto, even so-called meme stocks where I trust the leadership."
"So my bigger question is: once you have wealth, don’t we owe it to the world to step aside and invest intentionally, setting the lead — not just passively? Your investments make you money at night, but they actively work aganist what we’re fight for. Cause all of these layoffs and this 80% fear. Isn’t that part of why people are calling for 'taxing the rich' — because the rich choose to feed broken systems instead of fixing them?"
”You wrote this book, and only make $3 off of it, but the message you’re sending is hurting the people. It fights against us in the long run in these systems.”
"Also, you talked about 'where is your money' — but a lot of people don't realize market makers like Citadel have trillions in derivatives exposure, synthetic shares, and broken price discovery. Tools like DRS — direct registration — help rebuild that connection between supply and demand. Do you think financial education at your level should start including those deeper structural risks, not just strategies for individual profit?"
My ‘question’ went on for almost a minute -- eventually she said ‘I get it”. She said not to get her wrong, she invests in 22 companies on her own and she also thinks its great to question capitalism.
But I wasn’t questioning capitalism.
I was questioning abuse of capitalism, and her advice is feeding the problem.
She is an influencer with all of these followers, this team, and this extreme wealth. At what point will she be brave and step into full-fledge values focused? Or is she not going to?
I didn’t ask those follow up questions, but her speech continues with others’ questions.
She’s wrapping it up - she said you can make jewelry, tutor, lots of things to make money.
Are we reinforcing the capitalism that doesn’t support our values? Personal finance is person- we make choices for ourself. I want to build wealth to take care of momself and my family? I want to support female founders. I’m an investor in 12 companies. I work in fin tech, climate tech.. hope one day you can invest in the things that match your values
When you build it up, you can think about how to focus on your values.
I didn’t say my point well - but it makes me mad when people give these speeches that just contribute to the problem. I wish I could say this better - but at least I tried. I was pretty aggressive, not too clear. But I tried to make my point. This doesn’t work and it makes things worse.
She says, when she first started making six figures, she was told she didn’t make enough to care. She says that fiduciary means clear values.
A girl says she’s fortunate enough to have a great accountant, she learned about S-corps, so if someone is making jewelry on the side can leverage their S-Corps.
She said she has a business and they make tremendous side streams.
SEP IRA, she can put a lot of money into the IRA’s on the side.
She’s bragging about maxing out everything. She’s not connecting authentically with the audience’s needs.
But it was really good I had this experience before I give my own speech!!! I’m giving a speech next month called “fighting finance” and the theme is that we can use our money to fight.
She keeps joking that her team told her to thank everyone, to say hte good parts of her book. Omg this girl and her team. I know people who have worked on teams for girls like this.
Its funny she wants to joke that her team told her to remember to thank everyone. hahah. What a mindset.
A number of peopel came up to me after and thanked me for asking that question. One girl said she hasn’t even thought of that. She knows a lot of women making so much money in tech and they don’t even realize these things.
That’s exactly my goal. Get the conversation and thoughts going. Idk the answers, but I see some problems.
This presenter, she can’t face this because it challenges the entire system she thrives off of. She just wrote a book about it. And she said she only makes $3 per book, but it’s at the expense of this bad info IMO
Where is her moral leadership?
Yeah, i talked to a number of people after. They came up and talked to me, wanted to learn more and/or connect me with people or themselves.
It was fun but also confusing a bit. I wasn’t sure how to respond. I’ve thought about it more and I think next time I can handle it better. If i were to do something like this again. Just be more calm, quiet hahah.
The addreneline kicks in sometimes, but I just really was getting angry with this speech - and it turns out other people felt it, too.
We need better advice these days. We deserve it. We deserve to fix and challenge this system around us. To work for us.
At lunch, I went and took some space to myself and then walked over to the water by the lake. I enjoyed getting some more sunshine, working a bit, and then had my meeting outside.
Next, I head back to the site and returned for the final speech on neurodivergency. I learned only a few years ago for sure that I’m quite neurodivergent hahaha. Had no idea that it was at a bit ‘more’ of a level than I’d thought growing up. Though I’d figured out little bits here and there. The more I learn of it, the more that clicks.
And even, it has been fun and calming to learn about, so I was excited for this speech, too.
FINAL SPEECH: NEURODIVERGENCY
You can have several types of disabilities. Let’s just go.
She skips through her first intro slide
Btw I like this girl, I met her the other day at hte event and she questioned/added on to a lot of my ideas and iliekdt that.
She said most people wouldn’t have thought.. well her mom had her at 16. And told her dad he was going to work the whole time. There are roles and structure.
For her, having a mom, that was a way - not being close, having her grandma
The connection of maternity love didn’t come from her mom. There was a big gap between her and her mom
Neurodivergence can come out of trauma
The reason why I was born, she would have aborted me, was cause the doctor told her: you had two abortions already, if you get the third one, it’ll harm you.
I would have been aborted if it hadn’t been that doctor telling her she couldn’t do it.
Most of your neurodivergence and pain comes from your family. We’re going to be unpacking things that can liberate you later on.
Most of your neurodivergence and pain comes from your family. We’re going to be unpacking things that can liberate you later on.
You don’t have to hide, you don’t have to be who someone else wants you to be. You can be your healed, healthy self.
Fast forward to my mom being 20, she moved myself and my brother (she had my brother a few years after, we all went to california). She always said I have an old soul, your parents probably told a lot of you you have old souls.
I just look you with amazement, I didnt have to tell you anything, you just did it.
But I was telling you guys how I was containing a hold of everybody
But fast forward, we moved to California, then back to Mississippi, but by the time I got back, none of the adults thought that you need to be in special needs, we need to catch you up.
Instead, I got put in special needs classes cause it was a whole different way of doing work.
3rd - 5th grade, but then she got out. A teacher got her out.
Now she’s in the other world with different people. It got confusing, catching up was confusing.
I graduated and I got to college and I found out I was neurodivergent and I had dyslexia and disgraphia - you guys forgot to test those?
I found out I was at age 32 oro something hahah.
It was the best to actually know myself, it was a HBCU school, I was always in a space where I was upfront leading or doing youth stuff. That created a special part for me of involving in the world where I knew who I was and I dint’ have to shrink myself.
That got me in trouble a lot, learning I don’t have to shrink myself.
Before I fast forward to now, how I got into inclusion and neurodivergence, is cause in 2016, I was a part of a space with GSBA - withing GSBA, you interview individuals who kinda sorta have disparities. So we did scholarships for them teh whole four years of school.
I was able to meet a person who was deaf and trans. They were telling all of us about the story of them wanting to finish school, when they finished they’d make sure individuals who were deaf and hard of hearing were able to access 211. When you need help there is a big disparity between disability.
So I wanted to figure out how I could help this group of people
I’m a person who always likes to talk abouthte universe, I asked the universe for help. Then I got a call a few weeks later to become on the commission for disabilities locally. I joined the board.
As I’m doing all of these things, I’m pulling the city and county into doing things for people like us. I’m pulling them into doing the right thing. I can do this with a business and do this journey with everyone who wants to intentionally do better for themselves and everyone else.
So she does work consulting individuals with disabilities, like herself.
She had a long journey unpacking every season, being able to say this is done to me but it can work for me.
How do I figure out, as a neurodivergent person, where am I showing up? What’s my next move? Next plan of moving in this space of being neurodivergent?
She wants us to make agreements - let’s make sure we all agree on how we’re going to show up. What are some ways you’d like for yourself and others to show up?
You can yell or speak up while we go through these conversations.
Curious and patient
Being kind
how can you be kind to yourself and forgive?
Shoudl we do terminology? Someone asks
She says this is how I do equity and diversity: most people navigate their lives, and I’d like to incorporate this terminology.
It helps you navigate and feel free to be okay with words and your role with those words. Self advocacy, cool
Being empathetic, we may not all have the same experience.
Private and confidential
You don’t have to tell the whole story. Share what you want to share as a group.
I said this earlier with the speaker earlier about menopause… sometimes we don’t talk about any subject thats sensitive as women, cause we’re afraid if the women get mad at us they’ll tell others our secrets
secrets
As women, we need to be better stewartists of how we treat each other. Be kind and gentle with each other.
She said this is a space where she wants neurodivergent entrepreneurs and employees can be themselves and create systems for themselves.
Sometimes as neurodivergent people, we don’t have a framework of peopel ahead of us.
Peopel said I had too many businesses and services, people won’t know what you’re dong
SHe’s like, no, I see the services other businesses are dong and I’m following the pattern. You need to make sure you can navigate each quarter.
We navigate things in a different way.
She talks through things very quickly, but says they’re all things people usually don’t have in tact and think of normally(unpack the spaces you identify with and be able to connect the dots between the actual spaces you identify with and who are you in those spaces).
Now she wants peopel to get in groups and talk about these questions.
Perception is the context to everything. Think about these questions and talk about them:
What’s the first thing you think of ?
It was fun talking to everyone.
She said she was intuitive and an adult in a kid body. My personality is one where people just want to share. Nothing surprises me, people usually tell me what’s going on with them.
Audience member: when you think of disability, you think of someone who is not able to function adequately.
Our group was saying that you need to accommodate for them
For ‘this game we’re playing’ they’re at a disadvantage.
But that doesn’t mean it’s right.
First notion is that it means sometibng in this society, but on a deeper level, its really this neutral thing where neurotypical and neurodivergent, they operate in a different space, it’s not bad or good, just this society we live in puts a label on it so its how we perceive it and both are neutral and good.
Our group leader said that so well hahaha. This lady is so well spoken, I noticed that when she spoke in our group earlier.
She said we all take up different types of space but it’s still the same space.
One audience member says she has family who is neurodivergent, but sometimes you don’t meet them till you’re at work.
The last group laughs that it’s hard to go last, but over the years interacting with family and friends they’re more aware of what disabilities are.
We all agree that even in today’s society, we’re not equipt make people feel normal with invisible and visible disabilities
It’s not ‘not equip’ but its more ‘not willing ‘ when you see someone, saying, ‘hey do you need help’
Don’t take things personal if they lash out that they don’t need the help.
Lend them the grace, don’t let them walk over you.
Don’t let the experience hinder you from asking other people.
The reason we talk about this is because it gets your brain into thinking another pattern of, okay… I’ve never thought about this.
You’re going to think about this in the workplace. Let me step back and say, I was telling (she turns to the girl helping her with the slides, they figure out how to say her name hahah, “How do you ask someone with an invisible disability if you need help. You can say, “Hey So and So, I’m just going around to everyone to see if they need help. If you need help with understanding like what this is, this is how I see it, idk if you see it the same way, I’m here to help you.”
- most people as adults, just cause you went through special needs, you don’t really get exposure to the real world.
Their thinking processes are still good, tehy’re capable of things, but their disability doesn’t quite go away either.
An audience member says that there is a guy who made a business that can help you in the airports and give you tabels to wear at the airport like “anxious” so peopel at the airport know better how to talk to you.
Another guy in the audience yells out that he knows that guy.
She said, as a kid, she’d get allergic to the morning dew (me too! I’m allergic to a lot of nature)
She has hightened sensories.
Either if they’re low functioning, or going through pain… I can feel it. What happens is I sometimes have to literally not take it on, cause it’s so to the point where I can’t even be in rooms for a long period of time. It just depends on the actual group.
You got to understand how you navigate those at another time.
There are 9 types of disability
If you have on glasses, you are vision impared. You have a disability, welcome
Movement
Thinking
Remembering
Learning
Communicating
Hearing
Mental health
Social relationships
These are all things that regular people don’t even think about. Things you do every single day
Hahahah omg I think of this all
You come into disailbities from birth to your deathbed.
Figure it out early enough to do preventative help in that care.
Three dimensions of disabilities.
Disabilities show up in different ways for different people.
WHO says: impairment, activity limitation, participation registration in daily activities
PSA - be careful about how you think about disabilities, think about your concepts of talent + LOL - watch a reality tv show, you’re amazed by the epeple you end up loving hahaha - like, taking the time to get to know people reveals the most surprising peopleintelligence.
Sometimes you look at a person and you realize they’re not as smart. But the thing about it is, your’e thinking that about yourself and deflecting it on someone else.
Everyone shows up in their own way of being intelligent.
It’s about projecting on others and being careful on how you project your own thoughts and abilities towards someone else.
She puts up a quote that’s too hard to read.
I got distracted with my phone hahahah omg. What just happened? Idk why I got onto my phone and just got sucked into it.
Okay back to her speech
As neurodivergent, we engage with the world through heightened sensory experiences.
You will realize things feel different in different places.
The lowest frequency is sadness, guilt, a few more things
The highest is joy, happiness, authenticity… it’s like a whole spectrum
When you’re at a place of happiness or being fulfilled, you can walk into any room and change that environment
Or you can be sad and you can actually pull down the actual space of the people around you
OR IF YOU FEEL AWKWARD!!! ITS SO TRUE
You’re always conscious of how you’re moving and how you’re feeling.
Our group talked, too, about how neurodivergent people tend to have this extreme need to speak up for others and stand up for justice and good.
They’re hyper tuned into the world around them. Beyond what people without this experience.
Types of Empaths: empaths are individuals who have an enhanced ability to sense and experience emotions, etc…
Emotional Empathy: highly attended to the emotions of others, deeply supportive but overwhelmed without boundaries
Cognitive empathy: high emotional intelligence and can understand others perspectives without absorbing the emotions. They excel at seeing situatoins from multiple viewpoints
Affective empaths: absorb emotion of those around them which can make intimate relationships challenging as they prioritize others needs over their own
Compassionate empaths: driven to help and take action in response to others suffering
Physical
Intuitive
Dream (I couldn’t write them all down but I took a pic)
Unpack your role as a neurodivergent person.
- Neurodivergent people usually follow the same path. You learn from your parents or caregiver, you take those patterns into other spaces.
Then empath shows up in actual structures. Sending unspoken issues, instilling love for nature and sustainability, guiding through challenges, responding to well being, taking care of caregiving, helping with expenses,, healthy communication, emotional barometers sensing underlying tensions and unspoken feelings.
What do you notice in your family members and their patterns? Everything that comes from the home goes into different spaces. If you were a parent, someone talked about how their son was deaf and they didn’t know until they were 10.
- Sometimes as family members we are not as kind.
My family would just say, “she’s just special, she’s over there”.
I was quiet and observing and saying I’ll move when I need to move.
Everything that happens at home, be very careful with the people in your family who are very different.
Tehy’re different because they don’t have anyone around them
Their whole healthy self was just used for the goodness they bring
My family taught me that I showed up at other places and they taught me to be co-dependent.
Figure out where you’ve been taught to be codependent.
How did you learn to be independent and in a space where you’re allowing others to help you.
Be interdependent where you’re balanced enough to know how to ask for help. It’s about two way relationships with people, understanding your part you play in your relationship.
Don’t wait until the person does something bad to you to leave, if they show you patterns, dont’ stay and live in that space with them. Don’t breathe in that space hoping they may see you later on. They’re high in this space, can get you different places. It’s all about patterns and frequencies.
If you’re not not on the same frequency and pattern as someone, they’re not going to see you.
- When I’m connecting with others, I happen to be those things ,but when I’m not on their pattern, they’ll never see me.
It’s not about being cold, it’s learning how to have heart in your coherency. When your heart and mind are connected, your heart and mind will tell you to be kind to this person.
I want someone to be kind to me and help me. When you connect your logic and your mind, it will tell you how people shown up in patterns, to say if I help them, tehy will help me.
Why go down a journey while knowing that person is not reciprocal.
At work, you’re showing up in the same way that you show up at home, just a different hat - are peers around you that may have disability or be an ally to you
This will help you go into a place and not be ashamed and feel guilt of being who you are. Really fast - let’s see (she’s so funny cause she’s gone way over on teh time) - but I think peopel are enjoying this speech. Cause all the speeches were scheduled to be an hour and a half but she’s doing her for an hour and fifteen so it’s scheduled and now it’s turned into an hour and a half.
She says thank you all and thank you for sharing. Hope you got a lot out of this. Go home and digest.
AFTER:
- after that, I talked to a few people then headed back by the water to sit in the remaining sunshine and wrap up this blog. :)
Tomorrow I’ll go to an amazing day full of innovation in the nearby city - should be awesome, so I’m keeping this blog shorter to preserve energy (and I’ve got other KT projects to work on when the motivationreturns too hahaha)
Hope you guys enjoyed this write up!! Let’s see my reviews elaborted:
Overall Event Review Further Elaborated:
Venue (3.5/5)- This venue was set up SO WEIRD for a speech. Like why do you make it so people need to walk on the stage to leave/enter? Lol. And then the second speech was fine but no stage.
Food (2.5/5) - They had so much trouble with food. It was salads, but like everyone was surprised and disappointed with the food - even the staff themselves hahah. It was kinda crazy. And then even in the morning, the food arrived late and they weren’t prepared - which made speeches run late - and the food wasn’t majorly healthy. Just sugary and like making you hungry an hour later.
Speaker Content (2 and 5/5) - One speech I kinda lost my cool during, the other explained why hahaha.
Networking (4/5) - I met more people than intended, but it was in a good way, cause I met them like, with them kinda getting a sense of who I was and tehy approached me. That’s nice. In the groups it was fun to learn more about others - like, also those settings, where no one had to approach anyone and you could just chat about topics. I like that a lot.
Likeliness to Return (5/5) - so much better than sitting at home. I love educational discussions and these topics were interesting. It’s great to learn and hear from others who are passionate about their industries.
Until next time, I wish you the motivation and success to search for opportunities around your area. Search and explore: Who is out there giving talks? There are new things happening all of the time.
Find relatable or interesting topics you like and check them out! Maybe even something hosted at a cool venue, if there’s no other reason to go. Let’s see what you can learn and discover not too far from home. 😊
